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Back in highschool, I did what I wanted; I didn’t pay much regard to the wants or needs of others. And then I went to college and realized how easy I had it back at home. My mom did the dishes, my dad mowed the lawn, my teachers gave me step-by-step plans for success, and my friends usually said yes to everything. High school is a far cry from the real world. In the real world of college I had to wash my own dishes (in an often puke-scented mop closet); I maintained my own space (I know maintaining an 11ftx8ft dorm doesn’t seem like much, but with two long-haired clutzes living in that space it got pretty messy); I kept a planner and sought ┬áresources for academic help that were never mentioned by professors in lecture; I made friends who were busy and learned to prioritize. Last year, I began to really appreciate the occasions when someone said “yes” to helping me out and began to pay it forward. I was definitely a “no man” for the first 18 years of my life and am now more selfless.

Selflessness is an admirable trait right? Right…ish. It can be what allows you to make the days of others or ruin your own day, day after day. I want to use my best friend Elyse as an example of someone who could back off the yesses on occasion and probably gain some peace of mind from doing so (btw Elyse is one of the few specific examples I will ever give in my blog because she totally takes my self-improvement talk like a champ). I have witnessed this girl give the shirt off her back to someone, volunteer for hours on end when she could have been working for money, and leave almost every social event to shuttle her siblings around. She is a classic “yes man” and gets great reward out of helping others. On the other hand though, Elyse gets little recognition from many of the people she helps out, little time to spend with friends, and little time to herself. Because I care about her success and her happiness, I notice that sometimes people take advantage of her giving nature. I think if she would balance her yesses with nos, she would benefit academically, physically, and emotionally from taking some time for herself. If you are a “yes man” you probably could to.

We all know I am big on balance: balancing workouts, eating, and life. Surprise, surprise, balance is the bottom line of today’s post. Try responding to requests/invites with your schedule and overall happiness in mind. Will saying no to helping with a neighbor’s garage sale in favor of a beach day with family end in major negative consequences? Probably not. Will saying yes to a professor who would like you to come in for extra work on a paper instead of going to party with friends change something in your life for the better? Potentially.

On another note: I am officially starting my own challenges (both challenge 1 and challenge 2) today. I ran 7 miles this morning and have been tracking like a good girl. It’s definitely not too late to start. If you follow the instructions provided at either link any time this week, you are eligible to win a Starbucks gift card. Let’s end summer in the fittest way possible!

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Is it wrong that I am kind of sad that it is day 25 already? I don’t want it to be over! I could just be emotional because my music didn’t work in class this morning and I came home to a dog freaking out because of the much-needed thunderstorm. Why can’t thunderstorms relax small white dogs like they do the majority of humans?

My post today will reflect a different interpretation of day 25 than Chalene intended, as it is mostly about having your spouse on your side through goal setting and life changes. Since I have no spouse, I obviously won’t be telling you my opinion on how to deal with them (not to mention that most 19 year olds don’t really have an opinion on how to deal with spouses, regardless). I will rather, cover appreciating yourself and others on a daily basis.

I just talked about keeping fit friends; so if you have them, appreciate them. As you make healthy lifestyle changes you are displaying appreciation for your body and life. The people who support those changes should also be appreciated. Make “friend dates;” call them just to say “hey;” connect with good people you may not have talked to in a while. For those people you see almost daily, surprise them with tangible expressions of gratitude on occasion. Leave notes; show up to meet them with coffee help them out without being asked. They will notice and you will feel amazing for making their day. When it comes to family and partners or people you live with, it often helps with reaching goals if you’re on the same page. A common life priority list is ideal. Take time to discuss your priorities with those you live with to avoid conflict and gain support.

Luckily, I keep basically nothing to myself so those close to me are clearly aware of my priorities. That makes it so much easier to remain true to myself. Stay honest with others; stay honest with yourself.

If you haven’t seen my posts from the past couple of days, check em’ out. We’re talking fit bods and prizes here, people.


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